When you Write the Story of your LifeIf you write the story of your life.
"If you write the story of your life, don't let anyone else keep the pen."
Basically it means that you have to have your own life under contro. Determine your own course and do not stop until you have reached your goal. This means that you are the master of your vessel and sometimes you have to navigate this vessel through rough sea until you finish your voyage and find yourself in a shelter.
You' re not letting anyone or anything get you off course. You' ll remain in control until your trip is a resounding hit. You will be in charge of your own crews and your fellow travellers and may have to surf stormy seas to get them home. Your crews and your stowaways are your staff and your clients in the world of work.
It is your responsibility as skipper. And the other important thing I take from this is that no one else is allowed to write your story. And you know what's in yourhearted. Make sure the truths come out and do not allow other people with different motivations and agenda to falsely represent who you are or what you have done.
It is a tragic fact of life that there will be opportunities when men have their own ideas about what happens and they do not reflect real. You can' t ask anyone else to. Do not allow imprecision or falsehoods to become a general awareness. Don't let them take that pin away from you.
It is up to you to lead the monastery and write the sections of your life, both in relation to the acts you perform and in the way they are captured in your own story. So begin your section and make sure you write every single words with great enthusiasm.
Write to Awaken: History of your life
Recognizing that you're not your story is a giant step forward in self-realization. When I was in second class, I began to write obsessively; diaries full of secrets and disgraceful truth that I could not tell anyone. In this way, many authors begin to turn inwards as kids in search of responses that they cannot find around them.
Those books were my conference chair, the place where I could manifest my real emotions and try to understand myself and the day. However frightened, bewildered or insecure, my wits were cleared up by the letter. I had a strong inner and outer sound. The sound that came out of me and separated the truths from the falsehoods was my intrepid, innate self.
That self is behind a fictitious story I used to call "me," but that self was far from me. The free letter, without disguises, the gulf between masks and truths - between history and self - became dazzling. It sent out a clear message: I am not my story.
That life-transforming truths has been the definition of my work as a memoir writer, educator and spirit searcher for thirty years. How does it mean to say "I'm not my story"? "This is what people ask me all the while. I acknowledge the apparent fact that what we think is true is not true, as any shrink, physician or guardian will tell you.
Then we take these fake tales as facts and experience them as if they were the true one. This is because we are Homo Narrans, the narrative monkey, the only beast in all our life that is creating a conceptualised self. It is our firm belief that our story is true, and therefore, when I suggest to the pupils that every life is a work of destiny, they often find themselves existentially confused.
After all these years, the transformative force of my own expression ist astonishing. We are awakened naturally by the act of radically speaking the true. If we write down our story, we become witnesses, and this impartial detachment entails an "aha", for the personality that we considered sound is revealed as a story.
As we become more true about our thoughts and emotions, this story and thus our view of who we are changes more. If you tell the honest story, your story changes. If your story changes, your life changes. What makes the truths so extreme? This is because we seldom ( "completely") do it in our daily lives.
Being socialised mammals we are trained to conceal our emotions, protecting our reputation, convention and interests. Just think if everyone were to tell his or her own whole story, regardless of the implications. Instead, to prevent accusations and atrocities, we choose tidy openness, tidy up version of truths, euphemies and half-lies. Although we are usually sincere, civilised life usually requires restraint and co-operation compromises.
So much of it we suffer that the revelation of the truths can seem threatening, as if non-censored sincerity would destroy our well-groomed life.