When Writing the Story of your LifeWriting the life story
Quotation of the day: As you write the story of your life, don't let anyone else keep the pen.
Much as the quote says is quite easy and I wonder if I need to make a pole on it at all. At all times we are committed to one easy thing - Traust None! - Regardless of how near they are, how much they mean to you and how much you value them, it is still not a good time to entrust the decision about your life to someone else.
That' s why we are quite easy - the second you let someone else make the choice for your life - it becomes their choice, their thoughts and their clout. You could take care of you, which means good and even get the best out of life for you. When you give that authority to someone else - what do they do?
You make a choice to the best of your ability - not your current position, not your current needs or your capacity. It responds to their wishes, their uncertainties and their life-experiences. When you are an adventurer - there is no way to rely on this choice with a sensible individual and against.
You' re making a story for yourself. However fucked up or nice it is, it's still your story and you own it all. If something goes awry, you can't let someone else make that for you.
You' ve got to take full accountability for what you've done. That will never be the case if this operation is founded on someone else's will. It'?s YOUR LIFE!
If you write the story of your life, don't let anyone else keep the pen.
Some time ago, before going further into this position, I have written a corresponding play about the "judgment mindset in the Church", which deals with how it exists in the Church and how we must be conscious of it so that we can stop making so many unrelevant judgements about others.
We' ll almost always find ourselves in different circumstances where we might feel insulted by the acts of others, deliberately or not. I' ve found myself in many of these situation and sometimes I'm the better man who realizes that it wasn't his will. I' m really trying to pass on the benefits of the doubts to people who have insulted me, and almost every time I get close to them to debate the subject, it usually turns out to be a straightforward problem of mismanagement.
I have never been yelled at by my woman or one of our children (although there are many occasions when I want to). However, I was in a position where the High Council felt that it was appropriate to disparage not only my views but myself as an individu.
I' ve never been so angrier at an individuum as in these few month when I had to struggle with this particular problem. The problem with the bishop was raised and I even suggested "to let the past rest". "It was difficult to go to Mass because when I saw him all my rage and emotions came back as if it had just been.
Now, even if I decide to, it begins to disturb me where I felt I was mistaken. I have learnt from this experiment to resist letting the acts of those around me influence how I want to practice my faith or my life. I' ve learnt that the forgiveness of an individuum, even if it doesn't want to be forgave or deserves to be forgave, is still the right approach, because I earn the kind of freedom it provides.
So, when you face a problem where someone else's action affects yours, do what you can to solve the problem. I am persuaded that the overwhelming bulk of "offended" scenarios are mostly misunderstandings. This is not always the case, however, as the above story shows. You will eventually have to pardon them and move forward in your life and not allow this person to tell you how to go to church, how you should be at home or how you should be feeling while you are living your life.
All I' m trying to say is that someone else can tell you how you are feeling in your life. I won't be so bold as to say that there is a certain way to go on with your life, but however you do it, whatever you have to do for it, it's something you finally have to do.
Make use of the ressources in the church, your bishop, your community fellowship and, above all, the atonement of Christ to help you transcend these evil sentiments that you have towards someone else and to experience the life that our Father in heaven has destined for you.